Before I decided to get married, I already made a promise to myself that I will do everything to keep my marriage forever. I came from a broken family and I don’t want my children to feel what I felt. Now that I get married, I slowly grasp the reality of being in a marriage relationship. They said, it takes two to tango, so does marriage. Both husband and wife should help one another to keep their marriage works.
Marriage is not at all times a bed of roses. There are so many challenges and even adversaries that will really test your patience and love for each other. Any marital conflicts that remains unsolved will lead to divorce. The effects of divorce varies among those who are affected, not to mention the children. In my case, I did not allow my parents’ separation to ruin my future so I strive harder and made it a point to earn a degree thinking that when I will become a professional, every men will respect me and I will have a greater chance of finding the right man for me. However, not all children with divorced parents took the situation positively. In most noted cases, affected children tends to resort to drugs and other life-threatening acts.
In US alone, their divorce rates are so alarming. As what the infographic conveys, divorce not only occurs during the first marriage. Being in the second or third marriages doesn’t guarantee a hopeful individual that such marriage will last. Though statistic shows that divorce rate for couple with children is lower than those without children, still divorce has really a devastating effect and something should be done in order to minimize such cases.
What are the possible causes of divorce? Could it be one is falling out of love? Was there any third party? Whatever the reason, the bottom line is that, the future of the marriage relationship lies on the couple and how they behave when being tried and tested.
No marriage counselor nor love guru can really set a definite guidelines for lasting marriage relationship. We have known a lot of celebrity couples whom seems perfect for each other yet ended up in divorce. What could be the cause? Only the couple can really tell.
I have known some married couples in my whole life whom I truly admired. Their relationship is far from perfect yet they stick closer and stronger everyday. Why? Because the said couples spend quality family time by traveling together, playing together, and doing a lot of things together. These couples valued family time and I want to imitate them.
I have been married for more than two years and if I have to be honest I would say that me and my partner went through a lot. We have now two children and there are really times that it feels like giving up. But then I am constantly reminded of the promise that I made before I got married- to keep it last ’til I die.
When in trouble, divorce should be the last of all the least options.